Hey Fangirls. Awhile back I talked about Girl-on-Girl Crime, and how rotten we ladies can be to each other. One thing I didn’t touch on though, was internet bullying.
I don’t know about you ladies, but from what I’ve seen, it’s very prevalent with women. Angel Haze and Azalea Banks had a pretty big argument over twitter, a lot of women get threats on tumblr from anonymous people, and back in the Myspace days, I dealt with woke pretty serious shit.
Not that all of this is girl-on-girl, some of it is from dudes. With anonymous messaging, and a screen to hide behind, we don’t know who is who, and that gives people power. Guys have sent death and rape threats to women, and they aren’t always taken seriously.
When I was in high school, I was more visually weird than I am now. I had a ton of piercings, wore a lot of makeup, and didn’t really socialize. So when I hung out with a friend of mine who was a dude, it was an unnecessarily big deal. His ex attacked me the next day, and not anonymously. She was hot shit on Myspace, so apparently I wasn’t supposed to hang out with my friend.
She openly threatened to not only rip my many piercings out, but also to smash my face into cement, and kill me. I remember her words, because it was scarring. And because of her reaction to me when she met me. I’ve always been big, in both the chubby and tall respects. She, however, was the epitome of tiny. So she was super nice to me when she met me, because she couldn’t hide behind her computer.
That’s a problem. Being fake to someone’s face and then insulting them behind a screen. I try to be very open on the internet. From this site you can find my Facebook and Twitter. My Twitter is an open book, I try not to hide anything from people, because that’s how I want to appear in person. Part of that might be because I am awful at masking my feelings in person, but also because of the nonsense in high school.
All of that being said, the internet can be a magical place. I’ve seen depression victims helped by anonymous messages on Tumblr. I’ve been helped, and I’ve tried to send positive messages to people who seem to need it. Twitter has connected me to some of the coolest people I’ve met, physically or otherwise.
Something I’d like you to come away from this with; don’t be a bully. Don’t hide behind a screen, be upfront and honest. At the same time, don’t be afraid to reach out for help, that’s what we’re here for.
If you need help, I will always be here to help in any way I can. Contact me in any avenue you need to, because my goal is for us Fangirls and women to connect in every way. I want us all to overcome bullying, and band together to support each other.
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And of course, you can always contact us here. Let’s be better than bullies, Fangirls. We can do it.
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